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28

Aug

dangerdonut:

Emily’s still bitter about the finale

Anonymous said: can you explain why Emily went back to Jim and didn't want anyone to get involved in Manifolds? I really don't get it... she was so scared and he was so horrible, yet she was so adamant about going back and didn't stay at Naomi's house

This is a really long discussion about abusive relationships actually. 

I’ll try to be as concise as I can.

To understand Emily’s behaviour there you have to understand that she was infinitely different from the Canon Emily. This Emily for 1, never came out. In this story line, the only time she really connected with a woman (in this case Naomi/Julia) she was rejected badly. She was rejected and therefore never came to gain the confidence to face Katie and Katie’s original disapproval. She didn’t face her parents either. So when she got to University (where, if I remember correctly, she met Jim), she was already extremely different from the Canon Emily. She wasn’t comfortable in her skin and she was, I think, ashamed of herself in a way. Then came Jim. Jim who, in my head, was charming and handsome and funny and sweet. Jim who was interested in her and Jim who was the first in years to make her feel like she mattered.


It’s important in this case to realize that, usually, abusive partners aren’t complete assholes from the get go. Abusive partners actually tend to be very good talkers. That and they choose their partners well. Mousy/insecure Emily was always, in my humble opinion, a good target for abusive partners. Wasn’t Naomi a bit abusive in the beginning after all? And I love Naomi to bits and pieces, but she played a lot with Emily’s feelings and I think Naomi is only forgivable because she didn’t mean to hurt Emily even if she undeniably did. Still, the way I figured things in Manifolds was that it wouldn’t be too much of a stretch to imagine an Emily who had never found the courage to be herself and had been pushed further into herself instead. She was pretty much a doormat when we met her, wasn’t she? Sure the Canon didn’t go that way, but I think Emily had the potential to. 

So yeah, Jim came into her life and made her feel like she mattered. In my imagination, their relationship and marriage was based and worked on the fact that Jim was the ‘boss’. He was the provider and decision maker and, again in my own head, Emily didn’t really challenge that. She was already repressing herself completely by being with a man at all. 


In my head, Jim was psychologically abusive and became progressively worse. Like it started with a jibe here and there and evolved into a bit more. But since he was never challenged he never got into the physical abuse.

And then came Naomi. Naomi who knew that Emily could be so much more than that. Naomi who pushed Emily to be more than that, to be herself. My idea was that Naomi would be the catalyst that Emily needed to “wake up in a way”. The one person who would make her feel so much that she couldn’t ignore it, couldn’t repress it. Because they are special.

But then, I imagined it so that Emily’s new found confidence would have repercussions at home. It was especially hard to put that point across since I was writing the story from Naomi’s pov solely, but in my imagination, as EMily gained confidence, she started to speak up more in her marriage. And upon losing control, Jim’s abuse increased.

Could Emily have left him? In my head no. As liberating as Naomi was, she was also brand new. And lets not forget the only thing Emily had ever known about women was reject. Jim, on the other hand, had been the one stable thing in her life. And sure Emily didn’t love him like that, but I always imagined that she did love him. He wasn’t a complete asshole, until he was.

In my head, it didn’t make sense for Emily to drop everything she’d ever known for a woman she barely knew. In my head, after years of psychological abuse, she didn’t have the strength to act. There’s a real story of desperation here and I always felt like having Emily- beautiful, brave Emily- be the source of so much despair was very poignant. But that’s the thing about abuse and especially psychological abuse. It fucking sneaks up on you. It drains your energy and your life force. It feeds on your own weaknesses and creates more. It honestly fucks you up in a way I hope you can’t even imagine, anon. But it does and you’re left with a shell of what you’re supposed to be. You’re left and you feel like you’re not even yourself anymore.

And as powerful and meaningful as Naomi was and as important as her love was, after years and years of holding on, I could only imagine Emily breaking. After being betrayed by the one person Emily had always trusted (as much as Jim turned out to be a prick, he was still her husband and I do think Emily trusted him), I think Emily just didn’t have any more strength.

And I mean, why didn’t Emily realize that she didn’t deserve the physical abuse? Well, sadly, most victims of abusive relationships are so destroyed by the time it gets there that they do come to believe it’s their own fault. Mix that with the fact that Emily knew that she was cheating…. I think she very much believed she deserved Jim’s wrath.

She deserved his punishments and she didn’t want to leave the only person she felt like she ever had and then he betrayed her. That was enough.

I hope that helps Anon! It’s not gospel, but that was my reasoning.

MMxx

25

Aug

anonymousbookslut said: Hi. It's not actually a question but a compliment 🙈. You write so so so so so so fucking good, I really love your writing. Never stop doing it.

I am super flattered! Thank you very much! I cant tell you how much it means to me :) It amazes me that people think that but i am so grateful!! So thanks! You’ve made my day!

23

Aug

Anonymous said: Great new chapter! Hope you are doing well!

Thank you :)
I’m doing good. Your messages/reviews have been the light of my week. I have missed them dearly! I’m truly blessed and i’ll try not to make you all wait so long for the conclusion of this story.

subtleanarchist said: I don't know if it's a problem with my Internet connection, or what, exactly, but one minute I had the 12th chapter of 12 Years of Christmas and began screaming hysterically, and the next Ffn tells me the chapter's gone. My heart. It hurts.

I don’t know what happened! It crashes for a few hours and no one could access the chapter! Hopefully it fixed itself soon enough! I hope you’ve had the time to read what you couldnt earlier :)

17

Aug

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13

Aug

Anonymous said: Hi just curious, of all the characters you wrote in every story, which one did you like best writing for and the least? Most complicated?

Oh I love this question :P

Hum… It’s a bit of a hard one though. I think generally speaking, I feel most at ease/most comfortable writing Naomi. Duh I guess, but it still needs to be said. Is she the one I like writing best though? I must admit I have a very fond spot for writing Cook. The scene in Educating Naomi where Cook is drawing and feeling a bit down and Katie comes in and they talk? That’s probably one one my favourite thing I wrote. I really really like writing Cook, I get him too. And I love how rude and unapologetic he can be in a way that’s very different from Naomi.

My least favourite…. It’s gotta be a two-way tie between Effy and Panda.Very different, but both characters I feel like I’ve never completely nailed. They’re both complex in their own right and have a very particular voice that’s not easy for me to channel. I love them both to death, but I’m rarely satisfied with how I write them.

Thanks for asking :)

12

Aug

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06

Aug

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01

Aug